Supportive Atmosphere
Parents nowadays are so very friendly to the children that I feel like I should be reborn to enjoy the entire experience of growing up afresh. I think mainly our changed family patterns owe much to be praised. The young ones feel comfortable in everything they do whereas nearly 10 yrs ago they need to ask so many people for consent before taking any decision that the spirit would almost dampen of doing something different on their own.
Actually we must encourage children to take decisions so that self confidence grows and they become strong individuals. If we take all the major decisions for them how at all they would become confident? I have seen a few parents helping their son or daughters cross the main road while going to school and colleges. Teach them proper ways to cross roads instead. A 9th standard girl can't go to school on her own as she lacks the confidence without her mother to help her. Guide, counsel, advise but do not dominate their minds to the extent of making them mentally cripple.
The children have to choose their life maybe without you then how bold and confident attitude would come suddenly? We need impart good values and teachings as a parent and see them take decisions, find what mistakes they have made and how it could be corrected. It would help them in correcting their own mental attitude as well understand better.
After 10th standard many of the students are nonplussed regarding selection of the subjects. If someone gives suggestion they easily nod just because they lack decision making ability. Many regret after completion of graduation that they could not select good subject for higher studies. Though we intend to safegaurd but forget how we felt at their stage. Overprotective attitude is highly dangerous as it kills individuality and in future their attitude gets affected.
A person after completing his studies if can not take a decision about his career how anyone would appreciate him and how he would create an identity for himself? Our support is essential but only emotional, intellectual and financial, let them decide. Suggest if at all required. It would strengthen mutual understanding and your relationship, in future they would love to confide in you just because you trust them. On the contrary if you keep on towering they would run away from you to avoid unwanted interference.
Unknowingly every parent tends to compare the children with their friend's children but we compare the final things not the entire rearing of a child. In many a families simply parents expect the best and keep on nagging children, they lose what good they have gradually or start hiding the realities from parents out of fear to be nagged. Many children are average in studies but have creativity in other things, we can observe and encourage to excel.
If we take a survey of great achievers mostly they were extremely poor in studies maybe because it has not much to do with creativity thus failed to give required attention. Painting, singing, writing, dance, acting, mimicry and sports. So many options to choose whereas in studies we don't have any options. Studies should be made more practical and interesting mainly by opting good and innovative methods by teachers so that students feel more involvement.
We get education and a bunch of certificates from educational institutes but from where we get confidence and positive attitude to make personality shine? From our family and parents only. Many people have this false impression regarding personality, only good looking and smart persons can excel in interviews. But it is not true. Presence of mind, common sense, positive approach, attitudes and of course our performance in the interview makes lot of changes. Prejudiced mind takes us nowhere, instead we need open our mind and surely update ourselves to create special impression.
Nowadays there is much scope for brilliant performance and we need not feel inferior in any ways to govt job seekers. Private sectors have much to offer for high potential candidates. We need change little more. As globalization is spreading fast we need make ourselves more efficient in every possible ways and stand up to face the challenges. Without failure none can excel in life so opt a positive outlook and be ready with full zest to win. Success would surely embrace you soon......
Actually we must encourage children to take decisions so that self confidence grows and they become strong individuals. If we take all the major decisions for them how at all they would become confident? I have seen a few parents helping their son or daughters cross the main road while going to school and colleges. Teach them proper ways to cross roads instead. A 9th standard girl can't go to school on her own as she lacks the confidence without her mother to help her. Guide, counsel, advise but do not dominate their minds to the extent of making them mentally cripple.
The children have to choose their life maybe without you then how bold and confident attitude would come suddenly? We need impart good values and teachings as a parent and see them take decisions, find what mistakes they have made and how it could be corrected. It would help them in correcting their own mental attitude as well understand better.
After 10th standard many of the students are nonplussed regarding selection of the subjects. If someone gives suggestion they easily nod just because they lack decision making ability. Many regret after completion of graduation that they could not select good subject for higher studies. Though we intend to safegaurd but forget how we felt at their stage. Overprotective attitude is highly dangerous as it kills individuality and in future their attitude gets affected.
A person after completing his studies if can not take a decision about his career how anyone would appreciate him and how he would create an identity for himself? Our support is essential but only emotional, intellectual and financial, let them decide. Suggest if at all required. It would strengthen mutual understanding and your relationship, in future they would love to confide in you just because you trust them. On the contrary if you keep on towering they would run away from you to avoid unwanted interference.
Unknowingly every parent tends to compare the children with their friend's children but we compare the final things not the entire rearing of a child. In many a families simply parents expect the best and keep on nagging children, they lose what good they have gradually or start hiding the realities from parents out of fear to be nagged. Many children are average in studies but have creativity in other things, we can observe and encourage to excel.
If we take a survey of great achievers mostly they were extremely poor in studies maybe because it has not much to do with creativity thus failed to give required attention. Painting, singing, writing, dance, acting, mimicry and sports. So many options to choose whereas in studies we don't have any options. Studies should be made more practical and interesting mainly by opting good and innovative methods by teachers so that students feel more involvement.
We get education and a bunch of certificates from educational institutes but from where we get confidence and positive attitude to make personality shine? From our family and parents only. Many people have this false impression regarding personality, only good looking and smart persons can excel in interviews. But it is not true. Presence of mind, common sense, positive approach, attitudes and of course our performance in the interview makes lot of changes. Prejudiced mind takes us nowhere, instead we need open our mind and surely update ourselves to create special impression.
Nowadays there is much scope for brilliant performance and we need not feel inferior in any ways to govt job seekers. Private sectors have much to offer for high potential candidates. We need change little more. As globalization is spreading fast we need make ourselves more efficient in every possible ways and stand up to face the challenges. Without failure none can excel in life so opt a positive outlook and be ready with full zest to win. Success would surely embrace you soon......
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